September 23, 2006
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I'm gonna title this one:
THINGS THAT MAKE ME WANT TO SUCKER-PUNCH MY HUSBAND IN THE MIDDLE OF HIS SLEEP:
Where do I start?
1. OK. I'm sick...got a nasty little chest cold going on. (which would figure...I'm ACTUALLY doing a biathlon next Saturday...5 mile run, 13 mile bike ride...I"m SOOOO excited about this...not competing for the win, obviously, but for the "look what I can do now" factor...this will also figure into the smack my hubby list) Hubby worked 3 days round the clock last week. (keep in mind when I say round the clock, it means no sleeping for 3 days) So Wednesday morning he comes home, crashes on the couch, moves upstairs to sleep, sleeps almost all day, all night Thursday night. No problem. I understand he needs to catch back up on his sleep. I'm hacking around like an emphysema victim, but that's OK. FRIDAY I expect some kind of special treatment. I do. "go take a nap honey" "oh, here, honey, I made you some nice hot tea" "oh, don't worry about taking Jason to the dr. in the rain...I know you're sick, you just stay home and rest". Nope, none of that. He falls asleep on the couch sporadically, goes up to bed finally, I PLAN on taking a nap, as I"m heading up, school calls, come get Jason..complaining of ear ache and low grade fever. Hubby HEARS me heading out door, asks what I'm doing and rolls back over to sleep!!! Then have to take Jason to dr in an hour...have to wake up hubby to possibly pick up daughter at bus stop, because we were in line for some pretty healthy storms. He grouches and complains something fierce that he doesn't feel well, are you sure the storms are going to hit before the bus? WHAT???? I'm coughing up my lungs, NEEDING to get all better, and he just "doesn't feel well"? Poop. Also helped out sis last night so she could go out on a date, so I had her children stay the night. He stayed all night up in bed...his attitude being since I said I'd help with the kids, then ONLY I would help with the kids. Nice, hunh? THEN, when I come up to bed, my side of the bed is all messed up...sheets and blankets all wound together, I have to remake the bed. (yes, he messed it up in the first place) I'm just about crying 'cause all I want to do at this point is curl up and die, and he FALLS BACK ASLEEP!!!!! Jerk. Can we say POW in the middle of his forehead?
2. What is this sleeping on the couch ALL the time? He is a VERY VERY hard worker at work. AT WORK. If I had him as my employee, I would be a mucho happy boss. As my husband, I'm frustrated. Now, he does have some problems with this rash on his feet right now, and has been told to take it a little easier. But I'm pretty sure the doc didn't mean to disappear from the house and family life. I do EVERYTHING here at home. I try to justify this to myself by saying he works at work, I work at home, but sometimes this wears a little thin. ESPECIALLY when I'm sick, and I"m still cleaning, making dinner, playing chauffer...they get time off for being sick, why don't we????? Grrrr...used to be, he'd at least take care of outside chores...nope, that's mine, now too. Sneaky kick to the leg on this one...
3. When I do ask him to do something..."I'll do that in just a little bit". Little bit few days later..."when are you going to do this?" "Oh, I"m sorry, I forgot all about that...let me just finish this show" He falls asleep 'til dinner. Done. I HATE waking him up 'cause then he's just this big grouch who I don't even want to be around, and whatever I get him to do he does VERY begrudgingly, usually b%@##ing the whole time. Case in point: I asked him months ago, before I even signed up for this biathlon, to pull my bike down from the garage and get it back in shape for me. Asked him and asked him. Not nagging...just occasionally reminding him to please get it for me. Years ago, I was a HORRIBLE nag, and it was a problem...now it's a problem apparently for me NOT to be one. So my sis' bike is on our front porch. He wasn't getting my bike, obviously, so maybe my bike was just inconvenient for him to get. Her front tire is flat, so asked him to check out tire, make sure everything is good. This was about a month ago. Signed up for biathlon 2 weeks ago...have been asking him about every 2-3 days to please fix bike so I can practice for this thing. (I need to learn how to ride a real bike...I used to ride when I was about 10, and do the bikes hard and heavy at the gym, but it's just not the same) Day before yesterday, he was telling me how he tells everyone he's so proud of me, and I told him "if you're so proud of me, why can't you help me cross the finish line...'cause I'm not going to unless I get on a bike before the race!" Not exact words...he got all huffy, saying how I didn't think he was proud of me, whatever, 10:30 at night, it's cold..."c'mon, let's go air up your damn tire"...this is what I get.
He just makes me so dang angry sometimes. Why do I baby him, do nice things for him, be thoughtful, and I get squat? I deserve to be treated like a princess sometimes too, ya know? Not even a princess, a beloved part of the family. That would be nice too. Words aren't always the fix. Sometimes you have to show it. Romance me. SHOW me some love. Not just say you love me and tell me you brag about me to people. I want/need more. Gosh dang it. I need to wake him up now for a dr. appointment. Yippee. Have a great weekend ya'll...sorry this was such a grump-fest!
Comments (6)
::RYC:: betty crocker and pillbury..are my baking buddies..when i bake.....hehe. hard to goof up! Hope your having a good weekend.. I hope your feeling better soon...just go take that nap let your hubby handle the rest just say hun im sick going to bed and go.....let him handle the rest!!!!!! End of story!
Hugs, Elaine
Wow.. we could SO hang out! I had similiar issues with my hubby just last week -- had a big grump fest and told him it was time for him to get it together. He doesn't even mow the lawn anymore, or take out the trash. How is it that he gets no responsibility and I get all?? While he golfs, dives and surfs and I'm supposed to be suzy homemaker??? I don't think so! Hope you set him straight. I think I did mine...but the test is in the pudding so to speak.
Gee that's too bad. Perhaps you'll just have to bear his displeasure and tell him exactly what you told us. (Perhaps less emotionally as statements of fact.) Some guys don't get it without help.
I feel your pain. No really, I have one of those husbands too and I am a nag! Mine took 3 years to get the bathroom fixed up (3 years from the day I bought the materials that is, we talked about it for a while before that!). I can't believe you're going to do one of those biathlons! That's cool!
Just stopped by to see how you have been doing! Oh, bitch fest!!!! I understand, if you recall I was having a very hard time with my husband not to long ago. I actually got to the point of hating him. We had a very big blow out and we didn't speak to each other for about three weeks. I was sick of his bitching about everything and everyone. Then two weeks ago something changed in my mind. I still don't understand it. I started to hate things that I always liked. Like all the antiques I had scattered through out the house. I started packing stuff away (de-cluttering) the same happened with my flower beds, I always liked the country garden-hodge podge look. I started tearing things out of my flower beds. My husband has always slept on the couch for the major part of our marriage, he works second shift and after he gets home he falls asleep on the couch watching t.v. WHen he would come up to bed it would annoy me, I was so used to sleeping alone. I hated it when he'd cross his legs over mine and throw his arm over me. Now he comes to bed and I actually look forward to it. (At three oclock in the morning we are laying in bed holding a conversation) I honestly don't know what changed, but now he is bitching less and we are actually getting along for the first time in years. Maybe it's a age thing or hormone thing. So you too still have a chance at a happy marriage, maybe he has to know that you are serious and mean business for him to start treating you better and put some effort into making your marriage exciting again. I certainly would have never believed that it could happen to us. I actually didn't want anything to do with my husband, and now I actually want him home.Good luck to you. Take care. Sherri
Well...
Wouldn't stuff get even just a little more interesting if this was the first time he ever visited your Xanga site, seeking insight ... A feeble attempt, at best, ultimately resulting in him seeing what your friends and subscribers has been feeding on for who the f*ck knows how long!!!!
Well... Shits gonna get hella more interesting... Stay fucking tuned!
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